How to co-exist with your worst self

Who is your worst self?

Do you know this person well?

Are they a gambler, a smoker or worse?

Surprisingly, you have to let them out, you have to get to know them well and be best friends with them if you want to move forward in life. The speed at which you process the past will ultimately determine the rate at which you grow in life.

If you bottle up wishes and desires, they will fester and drag you down. In fact, my sincere belief is that some bottled up positive aspirations, otherwise known as life traumas, aspirations which were interrupted at some point in time due to a negative experience, get pushed down into our subconscious mind and then remain there producing negative feelings and thoughts.

If you follow the path of these negative thoughts and feelings in an exploratory manner, as if you are walking in the woods without really choosing or knowing the route, you'll come down to the desires and wishes, which were unfulfilled some time ago and which have now become negative emotions.

Typically, if you give those original positive aspirations some space and energy to breath and come to the surface, you will likely find that:

1) The part of yourself that you feared and disliked is actually not such a terrible part of you. It just forms a set of repressed wishes or development goals.

2) You'll learn something about yourself through insight into your suppressed desires and aspirations. What are those original aspirations? Can you remember? Can you sense what they are?

3) You will unleash energy and creativity that you never believed you possessed within you. Go after those wishes. See how that makes you feel. Feel the energy that going after a long suppressed aspiration unleashes. Do not be afraid to explore. Obviously stop if the process feels destructive or harmful to you or other people around you. This exploration has to be done skillfully. Luckily, life gives us options to do this work in a safe and healing way. You can approach a friend or a life coach and produce a safe, workable plan together.

Self-development is probably the most challenging part of human life yet, if done in sizeable stages and in a timely manner, self-development allows the individual to grow and transform into the being they really desire to be.

Finally, I'd like to leave you with a quote:

"And one has to understand that braveness is not the absence of fear but rather the strength to keep on going forward despite the fear.” - Paulo Coelho

While I am not saying to act on the worst ideations of your mind, I am suggesting that you think about them deeply and act on some of those ideas or feelings, which you suppressed at some point and which lead to fear and doubt in your mind right now.

This process ultimately brings unity, peace of mind, health and prosperity.

Hasta luego amigos,

Peter